Telling the truth
Horses never lie. Can I just repeat that again, horses NEVER lie.
When a human says, “well my horse has never….” you know ask any farrier, the next word is KICKED, you all can agree with one thing- ya right?! Horses will tell you when you are listening and observing just the simple factors of life. A horse will tell you about how their gut is doing, they will tell you distinctly if they like something and IF they have no tolerance, they will show you where they have muscle/joint tenderness oh and let’s not forget about how sore their back is from tack or spinal concerns and out of it all, when we have a glitch in miscommunication they will show you that YOU are confused.
Goes back to the saying, “show me your horse, it will show me you.”
Let’s go through some trouble-shooting of what is your horse communicating to you. First things, first, is your horse connected to you as their human? Go out to your horse with no words for an entire WEEK and then wait on the response from your horse prior to you responding in any way, no calling, no words, no initiation, nothing, now write down the response. Here is some common observations- your horse coming up to you, turn tail & go the opposite direction, nicker, show acknowledgement, show disgust, show interest, what exactly is your horse reflecting in being connected to you? One simple observation over a week can give a list of feedback and with how to process your horse’s response will give you some truth of your relationship.
- Come up to you- excellent, what treat is hiding in your pocket? Now take that out of the equation on day 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 & 7- now what… same response?
- Turn tail & go opposite direction- mmmmm, interesting. What does this mean? Rough day for your horse or rough day for you? still process day 2-7, same response?
- Nicker-(the yummy sound from deep in the chest) whoo hoo! Now the repeat the steps for days 2-7 – now what?
- Show acknowledgement- how & why? (body language)
- Show disgust- how & why? (tail swish, ears pinned, teeth)
- Show interest- how & why? (ears perked, eyes following your movement)
At the end of the week, ask yourself, what truth did your horse communicate to you? Does your horse trust you, day in and day out?
Here is the scary part, IF there is a glitch, how do you build trust as your horse’s human? Take a look in the mirror, your horse will show you all of your glitches and that is just the beginning of your journey. Just as quick that I hear humans say, “my horse has trust issues” I observe the human and that is exactly the concern with the human.
Here is some key points in building trust-
*Time, lots of time, and more time.
*Remember, social herd dynamics and horses require a leader between you and their entire being. A horse will follow a honest leader human or horse IF trust is developed.
*Consistency and fairness at all times, on the ground and in the saddle. Moving feet and taking territory, it is either your horse or you- developing respect from your horse means you are making the call and your horse has started to build a foundation of relying on your judgement.
At the end of this week experiment, of on-going development with your horse, work on being the human that your horse would be able to trust, they will tell you the truth. We’d love to hear what your horse does, let us know!
All the Best in Health,
Lisa @ Bonito Cheval
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